Its cruel to laugh at someone else pain, Yet people do it everyday!
There has to be a line drawn between wanting to satisfy an insecurity and having an internal issue of not loving yourself. Sure, we all have things that we are physically unhappy about when it comes to our appearance. That insecurity should not make you hate yourself so much that you are willing to cut and clip until you barely look human. What has caused me to type at 40 wpm about the ongoing topic is a transgender woman, by the name of, Fulvia Pellegrino. This woman was born a boy and is now in the process of transforming himself into a woman. Fulvia has had at least 127 surgeries and is still willing to have more to satisfy his desire to be a woman and feel beautiful.
I’m not so much concerned with the fact that he wants to be a woman as much as I’m worried about whether, Bill Clinton enjoyed that blow job he received, while living in the White House, allegedly! I’m more concerned about the doctors that are performing the surgeries. Being a doctor (plastic surgeon), means handling peoples skin, body tissues, blood, bone structure, and a persons life most importantly, so there should always be a strong since of ethics held in place. Clearly this woman does not example what plastic surgery promotes. Fulvia, has had at least 127 surgeries and still isn’t satisfied with her appearance? That’s, because plastic surgery only mask low self-esteem issues and identity issues. The doctors doing the surgeries only care about money, when at some point a doctor should be recommending her to another doctor, one that specializes in uplifting a person’s self esteem.
This is just not ok!!! She must be delusional to think she needs another lip filler, or bigger breast. Fulvia stated, ” I won’t stop here, I want to go ahead because it’s not perfect”. “If I reach perfection maybe I will stop.” This is insanity, shame on the plastic surgeons that continue to cut on her. With this type of mindset, its clear that she may never stop. What happens if she dies under the knife? Would one of the many doctors who cut on her be somewhat held responsible? Is there a level of standards and morals held in place, that says when enough is enough? Clearly there isn’t, because we live in a world of vanity and lust. I’m not saying she doesn’t have the right to pursue her want to be happy in her own skin, however that doesn’t mean others have to contribute to her own self destruction.
Whats even sadder is that so many people suffer from low self- esteem and now we have a medication for that, and it’s called Plastic Surgery. Is it a proven fact that plastic surgery helps those with low self-esteem? Or could it be making things worst and or masking the problem or contributing to more self hate? Which brings me to my conclusion, we have to be mindful of what we allow in the society that our children will later endure when were dead and gone. Do we really want them to be conditioned to think plastic surgery is the answer to low self-esteem? I’ts usually the prettiest girls who have low self- esteem. To me that says a lot, you have to love the core of yourself, which does not lay on the surface of who you are.
I’m not judging those that have decided to take the route of plastic surgery, maybe it was a medical reason, or you truly felt it would help you on your journey, without abusing the opportunity to be able to make physical changes to yourself. There is a fine line between wanting to make a change to simply improve who you already are inside, or truly having low self esteem in the core of your being, and thinking plastic surgery will heal your dissatisfaction with yourself. Plastic surgery is being abused, by people with lots of money, Kim Kardasian, Lil Kim, and MaMa June just to name a few. What we allow today will have a bigger impact tomorrow. Anything is possible and all is a free for all, before you know it we will be in a world of hybrid humans, 30% human and 70% robots. Ha Ha
Have you ever stood up for yourself, then the person flipped the situation, and you found yourself apologizing? Have you found yourself feeling guilty for demanding your respect from an individual while they play the “victim” card? Do you find yourself second guessing your decisions, because your worried about criticism from a specific person? Are you always giving, time, money, energy, advice, whatever, only to receive the opposite of what you put out?
You may be dealing with a user/ manipulator. If your not sure put them to the test by being more aware of there daily interaction with you. Pay more attention to body language and actions rather than what they say. These people are usually very charming and can talk their way out of almost anything. Beware of the person who doesn’t mind effecting your world in a negative way, only to gain in their life from using up your resources. Your energy and time is precious, once given you cannot get it back, so its very important to know those that truly have your best interest at heart and are genuine the love will naturally be reciprocated.
People just want to storm into your life place there problems and burdens on you, and somehow your all alone in your own endeavors? This is called being used! People love your good qualities, because they see how they can benefit from them. They never think about how there presence is effecting you, hell they don’t even care, its a one way view for people like this. Users, emotional and financial abusers, these people use manipulation as a paint brush to smear their garbage all over your life, and your left alone to pick up their shit and your own! They make you feel stupid for thinking for yourself by undermining and belittling you. They seem like they have the best intentions for you at first, by seeming helpful and interested in your goals. Its all so that you can open up, so they can find a soft spot in your heart for them to play on. Do not be fooled by this type of person and their tactics to suck the life out of you. Is it intentional or a subtle trait that some use to their advantage?
Conclusion: Do not think because it’s your family, friend from high, or even your partner/spouse that they will not try to use manipulation to get their way. Even children use manipulation on an subconscious level to get their way in. You are not to be taken advantage of or have your kindness taken for weakness. Do not be afraid to call a person on their bluff! They may not like that your calling them out on the BS, however they will respect you. No push over resides here!